This helps drive async callbacks from outside tokio-boring, such as in quiche.
Not a breaking change because every public item in tokio-boring is preserved as is.
Setting callbacks multiple times on a SslContextBuilder causes the previous callback
installed to leak, using replace_ex_data internally prevents that.
We also start using it in tokio-boring in with_ex_data_future, my understanding
is that the futures currently in use are never installed twice by that function
but that could change in the future with the addition of more async callbacks.