This helps drive async callbacks from outside tokio-boring, such as in quiche.
Not a breaking change because every public item in tokio-boring is preserved as is.
Setting callbacks multiple times on a SslContextBuilder causes the previous callback
installed to leak, using replace_ex_data internally prevents that.
We also start using it in tokio-boring in with_ex_data_future, my understanding
is that the futures currently in use are never installed twice by that function
but that could change in the future with the addition of more async callbacks.
Anthony Ramine